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Newsletter
February 2007
Top 10 Mistakes Couples Make
Have you ever wondered why so many couples start out deeply in love and over time lose that
loving feeling? Read on to discover the top 10 mistakes couples make.
That loving feeling
A loving relationship requires attention and nurturing to make it last. You may not even realize
that you are hurting your marriage until damage is done. As the Righteous Brothers sang,
"You've lost that lovin' feeling...Now it's gone...gone...gone."
Here are the most common things that people do to lose that loving feeling:
1. Attack Each Other
Many people don’t know how to resolve their differences. They often resort to character
assassination and yelling when they disagree.
2. Withdrawal
On the other hand, some people withdraw from conflict and quit talking. Then the ice storm
sets in and communication shuts down
3. Fight about money
Couples frequently disagree about how to spend their money. Many times people have different
interests and priorities. If they are not able to resolve this, it can become a source of strife.
4. Have an affair
An affair, whether emotional or physical, can be one of the most devastating events for a
marriage. Recovering from an affair is a process that takes a lot of forgiveness, work,
commitment, and time.
5. Quit dating their mate
Early in a relationship, most couples want to spend every waking moment together. They make
time to romance each other. The flame burns hot. However, over time they get caught up with
their careers and children. It becomes easy to forget about romance and the flame burns out.
6. Anger and Resentment
Have you ever been hurt by something your spouse said or did? Of course you have! However,
if you don’t forgive your mate, then that hurt can turn into anger and resentment. This creates a
wall of division that is difficult to scale.
7. Ignore the relationship
Many relationships end because couples stop investing themselves in the relationship. Over time,
they stop having anything in common and they drift apart
8. Start taking each other for granted
People stop treating each other special and take the other person for granted.
9. Couples don’t “leave and cleave”
A number of couples never break the ties to their families. Therefore, they never learn rely on
each other. This becomes evident during difficult times when they tend to run back home
instead of to their mate.
10. Manipulation and control
Some people try to manipulate their partner with ultimatums, guilt, and tantrums to get their
way. This might be effective short-term, but it erodes the foundation of the relationship and
leads to resentment.
Don’t let the love slip away
A loving relationship is one of the most precious gifts in life. These are 10 things that you can
avoid to help protect that bond. “We had a love…you don’t find every day,
So don’t let it slip away.” (Righteous Brothers)
Free Audio Available:
“Building Your Dream Christian Marriage”
I have developed this audio as a ministry to help couples build better marriages for stronger
families. In this audio interview, I will give you valuable tips for improving your marriage.
Topics include:
-Improving communication
-Healing your “achy, breaky heart” through forgiveness
-The essence of romance
-How to buy the perfect gift for your wife
Click here to access this dynamic audio online.
If you would like me receive a free copy of this CD (I even pay the postage), email me at
jeff@restorationchristiancounselling.com,You can also request a free copy for your friends and
family.
Invitations:
You know how marriages are constantly under construction in order to maintain a strong
foundation? Visit BuildingYourDreamMarriage.com for tools and resources to help you build
your dream marriage.
Please contact me for more information or to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. .
Jeff Barnet, MS LPC
jeff@restorationchristiancounseling.com
903-818-4838 or 903-870-9500
copyright© 2007 by Jeff Barnet, MS LPC. All Rights Reserved.
If you want to subscribe to this newsletter, click here.
Top 10 Mistakes Couples Make
Have you ever wondered why so many couples start out deeply in love and over time lose that
loving feeling? Read on to discover the top 10 mistakes couples make.
That loving feeling
A loving relationship requires attention and nurturing to make it last. You may not even realize
that you are hurting your marriage until damage is done. As the Righteous Brothers sang,
"You've lost that lovin' feeling...Now it's gone...gone...gone."
Here are the most common things that people do to lose that loving feeling:
1. Attack Each Other
Many people don’t know how to resolve their differences. They often resort to character
assassination and yelling when they disagree.
2. Withdrawal
On the other hand, some people withdraw from conflict and quit talking. Then the ice storm
sets in and communication shuts down
3. Fight about money
Couples frequently disagree about how to spend their money. Many times people have different
interests and priorities. If they are not able to resolve this, it can become a source of strife.
4. Have an affair
An affair, whether emotional or physical, can be one of the most devastating events for a
marriage. Recovering from an affair is a process that takes a lot of forgiveness, work,
commitment, and time.
5. Quit dating their mate
Early in a relationship, most couples want to spend every waking moment together. They make
time to romance each other. The flame burns hot. However, over time they get caught up with
their careers and children. It becomes easy to forget about romance and the flame burns out.
6. Anger and Resentment
Have you ever been hurt by something your spouse said or did? Of course you have! However,
if you don’t forgive your mate, then that hurt can turn into anger and resentment. This creates a
wall of division that is difficult to scale.
7. Ignore the relationship
Many relationships end because couples stop investing themselves in the relationship. Over time,
they stop having anything in common and they drift apart
8. Start taking each other for granted
People stop treating each other special and take the other person for granted.
9. Couples don’t “leave and cleave”
A number of couples never break the ties to their families. Therefore, they never learn rely on
each other. This becomes evident during difficult times when they tend to run back home
instead of to their mate.
10. Manipulation and control
Some people try to manipulate their partner with ultimatums, guilt, and tantrums to get their
way. This might be effective short-term, but it erodes the foundation of the relationship and
leads to resentment.
Don’t let the love slip away
A loving relationship is one of the most precious gifts in life. These are 10 things that you can
avoid to help protect that bond. “We had a love…you don’t find every day,
So don’t let it slip away.” (Righteous Brothers)
Free Audio Available:
“Building Your Dream Christian Marriage”
I have developed this audio as a ministry to help couples build better marriages for stronger
families. In this audio interview, I will give you valuable tips for improving your marriage.
Topics include:
-Improving communication
-Healing your “achy, breaky heart” through forgiveness
-The essence of romance
-How to buy the perfect gift for your wife
Click here to access this dynamic audio online.
If you would like me receive a free copy of this CD (I even pay the postage), email me at
jeff@restorationchristiancounselling.com,You can also request a free copy for your friends and
family.
Invitations:
You know how marriages are constantly under construction in order to maintain a strong
foundation? Visit BuildingYourDreamMarriage.com for tools and resources to help you build
your dream marriage.
Please contact me for more information or to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. .
Jeff Barnet, MS LPC
jeff@restorationchristiancounseling.com
903-818-4838 or 903-870-9500
copyright© 2007 by Jeff Barnet, MS LPC. All Rights Reserved.
If you want to subscribe to this newsletter, click here.
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